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Breaking the Silence

Will Henning — Tue, 02 Mar 2021 01:22:10 +0000

To You, Lord, I call;
My rock, do not be deaf to me,
For if You are silent to me,
I will become like those who go down to the pit. Psalm 28:1

Part 1 – Defense Against Despair

It’s been almost a year since my last post. That was certainly not my intent. However, life’s demands, responsibilities, and frustrations all played a part in the silence. While a few have asked about that silence and whether or not I intend to continue to blog (which, Lord willing, is my plan), I seriously doubt that the lack of these blog posts has caused anyone great consternation. Conversely, as David indicates in the passage above, the silence of God is another matter.

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Altered Plans – Accepting Change

Will Henning — Thu, 31 Oct 2019 18:46:56 +0000

The mind of man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps. Proverbs 16:9

As reflected in the passage above, we often make plans only to have them changed or redirected. Such is the case today. I have two posts partially written but I’m not up to the task of creating. The weather has turned and my body is reacting. Further recent events in our life have me distracted and unsettled which also affects me physically. As frustrating as it is, it is a common dilemma in my life. In an attempt to be more in tune with my physical limitations and not exacerbate the situation, I have decided to reuse a post from two years ago. It’s not my first choice, but it is the prudent one and a nuance of accepting the realities of my life with some measure of grace. Change is inevitable and as I contemplate the changes that God has made to various plans throughout my life and the lives of those I love, four reasons that come to mind are: redirection, placement, refinement, and grace.

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Dreaded News

Will Henning — Fri, 25 Oct 2019 00:07:00 +0000

How blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in His commandments. He will not fear evil tidings; his heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord. Psalm 112:1,7

In the spring of 1996 my wife and I left around 7 a.m. to take our older daughter to play in a soccer tournament. As we began to walk onto the fields searching for Adrienne’s team, I noticed people pointing at us and a police officer walking towards us. I knew that we were about to receive bad news and dread began to fill my soul. My fears centered around our younger daughter who was not with us and my mother who had been ill. I could not bear the thought of anything happening to either of them. The police officer informed us that my mother had passed away around the time that we left our home and that my father had contacted them to inform us. In that moment my strength left and I dropped to my knees filled with both grief and relief. I grieved my mother’s passing and was greatly relieved that Christine was ok. Since that day, I have learned much about dreaded news through experience and the faith of fellow servants of our Lord.

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The Waiting Game

Will Henning — Thu, 03 Oct 2019 22:15:30 +0000

Wait for the Lord; be strong and let your heart take courage; yes, wait for the Lord. Psalm 27:14

This spring I was finally diagnosed after a 27 year wait. A fresh perspective, advances in technology, and a better understanding of the human body have come together provide the relevant information for a conclusive finding. During that time there was much angst, frustration, concern and of course much prayer on our behalf. I regularly went to the Lord throughout that time, however, the tone and nature of my prayers changed as God used my poor health to mature my perspective. At first I prayed that God would relieve my pain. After some time, I began to ask for His grace to endure this illness. Having given up my career and studying the matter in earnest, I began to request that God would instruct me. I have now come to the point that I beseech our Father in Heaven to use my trials to allow me to be a minister of His mercy to others. While I make no claims to being the best student or a perfect model of godliness, I am grateful that God has matured my faith and has kept me looking to Him for solace and direction. To be sure waiting on God can be difficult. Scripture is full of examples of those that tried to hurry things along rather than wait on God. Yet, in order to patiently and graciously wait on God we must keep in mind that He will hear us, He is our hope, and He will be good to us.

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Protecting What Matters Most

Will Henning — Thu, 05 Sep 2019 22:16:50 +0000

Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23

This week we began the process of packing up our house. I started with a hutch that we are planning to sell. It took all day as I was vigilant to wrap things carefully…especially the important items. Nothing we have is worth much. However, many of the items have significant sentimental value. Some are gifts while others are dishes that my parents used which evoke emotional responses as well as fond memories. As I carefully packed each item and placed the most treasured items in boxes that we will personally handle, I was challenged with the thought that I might possibly be putting more energy into protecting mere household goods than I do in protecting my mind, my soul, and the gospel. That experience has had me pondering this topic all week and challenged my thoughts and behaviors.

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Faces of Change

Will Henning — Thu, 29 Aug 2019 20:53:43 +0000

Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow. James 1:17

It’s often said that the only constant in life is change. That has been true for us this summer. Within our family: we have sold or are selling four homes, buying three, two families have moved, Marie and I are in the process, our three grandsons have changed schools, Adrienne and Tom just got married, and Adrienne has gone from single woman to wife and mother. I’m sure there are more changes, but that’s about all my mind can process at the moment. Most of these changes are intentional. The boys, however, had no say in the matter, but seem to be adapting reasonably well. As reflected in our family’s situations this summer, some change is chosen and some is not. No matter whether we choose change or whether it is thrust upon us without our consent, there are usually benefits that are enjoyed and challenges that cause frustration. It is incumbent upon us to recognize that both are God’s will for us and must be received graciously and thankfully.

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Dancing With the Father is a Matter of Trust

Will Henning — Thu, 15 Aug 2019 13:46:06 +0000

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

As we make final preparations for our daughter Adrienne’s wedding this weekend, one of my main concerns is the father daughter dance. As much as I love to dance, I prefer to avoid the spotlight as I struggle to remember all of the steps and provide the proper leads while also trying to maintain the proper form. It is not just a matter of looking good, but also, in some cases, a matter of personal safety. The picture above is of Christine and me at her wedding nine years ago. By the grace of God, Marie and I have had the privilege of parenting our two daughters who have grown into lovely women. As such, these two dances signify transition in that my role as their father takes a back seat to their new life with their respective husbands. That said, as their father, they still trust that they can come to me with anything knowing that I will do my best to help them. In that regard they place much trust in me. However, as much as I desire to help them, I cannot provide the assurance that their Heavenly Father can. Most of what follows has been published before but is a favorite of mine and has much to do with the title of this blog site.

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One God and Father

Will Henning — Thu, 25 Jul 2019 19:48:27 +0000

Yet for us there is but one God, the Father, from whom are all things and we exist for Him; and one Lord, Jesus Christ, by whom are all things, and we exist through Him. 1 Corinthians 8:6

Yesterday was another rough day. I had a dentist appointment, met with my trainer briefly and went to the doctor. Prior to illness taking over my life, working these in around my job and responsibilities at home would have been nothing exceptional. They were minor adjustments to my normal routine. However, yesterday, they wiped me out and left me pretty useless. Some days, the thought of getting out of bed and simple routine tasks such as taking a shower can be daunting and insurmountable. While chronic illness seems to bring with it a regular cycle of pain and fatigue leaving one feeling alone, defeated, and useless, other trials in life like the death of a loved one or a job loss can do the same until they are resolved or the critical stage has passed. In an effort to combat those feelings consider the following passages about God and His perspective.

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The Love of our Father

Will Henning — Fri, 12 Jul 2019 03:18:30 +0000

See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are. For this reason the world does not know us, because it did not know Him. 1 John 3:1

As the father of two, I have a greater understanding of God’s love for us than prior to parenthood. My wife and I have very different personalities and our daughters have followed suit. In most ways our older daughter’s personality is more like mine while our younger daughter’s is more like her mother’s. My relationship with my daughters is equally different. Adrienne and I think alike, understand each other more readily and both enjoy music and dancing. Christine and I have to work harder to understand each other, but make the effort. I’m not sure either of us enjoys painting our homes, but we enjoy doing it together and make a great team. We also share a love of gardening…allowing us to go to a plant store together is financially risky. I love and am truly grateful for both of our daughters and could not imagine my life without either of them. The same is true of our Heavenly Father’s relationship with each of us. We each have different personalities, talents and character flaws. We are at different places in our lives as well as at different places in our faith and spiritual maturity. Further, our Father has different plans for us. As a result, we have different needs; therefore, His provisions for us and the life experiences that He has ordained for us will be as varied as the structure of snowflakes…no two are alike. As a result, his children often struggle to understand His love for them.

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Lost on the Pathway to Peace

Will Henning — Fri, 28 Jun 2019 01:27:54 +0000

You will make known to me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; in Your right hand there are pleasures forever. Psalm 16:11

As a rule, being lost causes a fair amount of frustration. Marie and I visited Red Rock Canyon this week. During our excursion we attempted to see pictographs on some of the rocks. Sadly that didn’t happen. The scenic drive through the canyon is a 13 mile one way road and there was a right turn onto a short two way road that we missed. Since we had time, we decided to circle around again. On our second attempt, we successfully made the turn and found the parking area. However, our lack of familiarity with the paths and the absence of a good trail map left us lost and wandering on steep and rocky paths. Out of time and lacking good directions, we gave up our search and returned to our car defeated. For His children, God offers a path to peace. Sadly, we often fail to experience the fullness of tranquility, joy and pleasure that our Savior desires for us because we lose our way. Similar to our excursion to Red Rock Canyon, it’s common for Christians to get lost on the path to peace because of ignorance, distraction or rejection.

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