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Wholly Committed or Halfhearted?

Will Henning — Fri, 09 Aug 2019 02:16:55 +0000

Let your heart therefore be wholly devoted to the LORD our God, to walk in His statutes and to keep His commandments, as at this day. 1 Kings 8:61

Roughly twenty years ago, I was in the hospital for observation to see if they could determine why I was having seizures. It was a one week stay in a unit that had four rooms with glass fronts; each patient was hooked to 80 electrodes and under both physical and video observation all of the time. The situation created an environment that lent itself to intimacy. In order to provoke seizures, the first tactic was to discontinue seizure meds. This was a concern to one young man in the room directly across from mine. He had not been married long and with the help of his medication, his wife had never seen him have a seizure. He had several violent ones that week, however, she showed up every day to visit and help him as best she could. In contrast, the man in the room next to him came to my room one night upset. He was a successful businessman who, from his own account, had an active and fun life with lots of assets and parties. As his seizures threatened his ability to work and therefore, his lifestyle, his wife had decided to leave him. She told him that it wasn’t what she “signed up for” and had no intention of being his nurse. These are the two sides of commitment.

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Love is an Action

Will Henning — Fri, 02 Aug 2019 01:14:19 +0000

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

For us, this is wedding month. Lord willing, on August 17^th our older daughter Adrienne will wed her fiancé Tom. That leaves us in a whirlwind of finalizing arrangements, finishing decorations, polishing dance steps and of course making the final payments for everything. It’s a busy time with the expectation of a joyous celebration which makes the effort worthwhile. In that light, my plan for the next few posts is to focus on topics related to marriage and weddings. However, I will do my best to applicable whether one is single or married. That said, this first post of the series takes a look at love.

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Encouraging Counsel

Will Henning — Thu, 18 Jul 2019 19:25:56 +0000

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

A few weeks ago, I took my wife’s car in for service. While working on it, they found that three of the light bulbs were out and asked if I wanted them to replace them. After a brief discussion, I decided to try to save some money and do it myself. While simple enough for many, it was not that for me. As is the case with many of us with chronic illness, I had to mentally gear up for something new, get the parts and then have the energy to attack the project. Knowing my limitations, I searched for and reviewed a few “how to” videos. The light bulb over the license plate didn’t go quite as instructed or planned but I managed to get it replaced after a fair amount of effort. However, the rear side marker lights didn’t fare so well. There were two clips holding the trunk liner in place that I could not get out. Thankfully, the next day our son-in-law Corey figured it out and showed me the error of my ways allowing me to complete the task. Without his counsel, I was failing, but with his counsel I succeeded. In this case, the situation was rather benign; however, often times counsel is needed in more difficult circumstances. If we are to be a helpful and encouraging companion, we need to be discerning in our approach to counsel.

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Listen (Part 1) – Instruction

Will Henning — Thu, 06 Jun 2019 19:27:57 +0000

Listen, my son, and be wise, and direct your heart in the way. Proverbs 23:19

I have just returned from a trip that included driving 2,000 miles. I was a bit apprehensive about the traveling that far alone as I didn’t really feel well. This was compounded by the fact that recently Satan seems to be raising many doubts and fears. However, as I look back, not only did God sustain and protect me, but He was also speaking to me. Throughout the trip, He was working to reshape my thinking through instruction, discipline and reassurance. The elements were all there, I just had to listen. Most certainly I heard and understood the messages provided through the sermons that I listened to while driving; however, it took a near accident at the end of the trip to really get me to notice how much God had been speaking to me throughout my travels. Honestly, I’m not sure I have gotten it all, however, over the next three posts I’d like to share how God used each of these to mature me in my faith.

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Help – The Gift of Service

Will Henning — Thu, 16 May 2019 23:21:39 +0000

When Jesus came into Peter’s home, He saw his mother-in-law lying sick in bed with a fever. He touched her hand, and the fever left her; and she got up and waited on Him. Matthew 8:14-15

This week celebrates the 93^rd anniversary of my mother’s birth; the 98^th anniversary of my father’s birth; and the the 73^rd anniversary of their marriage. Yes, they packed it all neatly into one week…with Mother’s Day thrown in for good measure regularly. As I take time to remember them and what they meant to me, I am grateful for them and thankful that they pointed me to Christ from the time I was born. Further, I am grateful for what they taught me through example. A significant gift that they each exhibited regularly was their servant’s heart which caused them to be helpful and compassionate in a variety of circumstances. It is a desire that was passed on to me. As I prepare to make a lengthy drive to visit and help my mother-in-law, I am reminded of the honor and privilege it that it was to help my parents and my father-in-law at the end of their lives. Now I have the opportunity to assist Ma as well. When we help others whether through acts of service, encouragement, teaching or some other form, it is a blessing to both parties.

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Encumbered

Will Henning — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 12:00:36 +0000

We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed—always carrying about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body. 2 Corinthians 4:8-10

Merriam-Webster defines encumbered as impeded, hampered or hindered with respect to functions or activities. A reality of my life and the lives of others dealing with chronic illness and pain is that we are encumbered in everything we do. Those of us are encumbered with respect to our ability to function are also, by definition, encumbered in our activities. Often it’s not just the physical issues but also the mental ones. It takes so much energy to accept and manage our physical problems and limitations that we are also mentally encumbered. Further, the problem is not limited to those with physical or mental problems, but also extends to those who are grieving, have relationship problems or are enduring some other trial. These may also find themselves encumbered as they attempt to accomplish the tasks set before them. Despite our struggles, God still calls us to complete tasks for Him. It is not ours to question or deny but rather to complete with aide of our Heavenly Father.

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Prelude to Thanksgiving-Blessings and Lessons

Will Henning — Thu, 15 Nov 2018 12:00:16 +0000

Gratitude for Everyone in our Lives

So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. Colossians 3:12-14

Within the past couple of weeks there have been quite a few conversations to make plans for Thanksgiving. While the menu hasn’t varied too much from year to year, the people with whom we share the meal have varied greatly. Naturally, the core group has always been our immediate family. However, many years have regularly included extended family, friends and acquaintances. As I consider those with whom I have celebrated this holiday, I am reminded that I am most thankful for the people that God has chosen to weave in and out of my life. Their roles, the length of time in my life and the affection for them has varied greatly, but they have all had a purpose. As the saying reminds us, some people are a blessing while others are a lesson.

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Deliberate Pursuit

Will Henning — Thu, 16 Aug 2018 11:00:35 +0000

But flee from these things, you man of God, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, perseverance and gentleness. Fight the good fight of faith; take hold of the eternal life to which you were called, and you made the good confession in the presence of many witnesses. 1 Timothy 6:11-12

I’ve watched several people die…it’s not a particularly pleasant experience. The closer you are to them, the harder it is. The longer it takes, the more time you have to think. That time and that pondering offer an opportunity for personal reflection in a way that no other experience does. As someone you love is on the brink of entering eternity, what is important in life seems to be much clearer than when we are in the daily race meeting deadlines and running errands, etc. Knowing that a loved one will shortly meet their Lord and God allows the Holy Spirit to speak to us and apply God’s word to our lives in ways that drive home His message with more depth and understanding. In short, it is a wake-up call to pursue a life well lived…that is, to live intentionally rather than passively.

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El Qanna – Jealous God

Will Henning — Thu, 09 Aug 2018 11:00:58 +0000

“For you shall not worship any other god, for the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God” Exodus 34:14

The context of Exodus 34 is that Moses is on Mount Sinai for the second time to receive God’s commandments. While he was with Jehovah the first time, the Israelites got impatient and made a golden calf to worship. After dealing with their sin and interceding on their behalf, he is once again with God.

It’s one thing to be described by another as jealous. However, to not only declare yourself as jealous, but to also bear it as a name seems to be extreme. Yet that is exactly what God does when He meets Moses for a second time. For us to consider this as extreme, harsh or even a bit wrong would be an incorrect stance.

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Trouble, Anguish and Understanding Pt. 2

Will Henning — Thu, 26 Jul 2018 11:00:03 +0000

Trouble Without

“Trouble and anguish have come upon me, yet Your commandments are my delight. Your testimonies are righteous forever; give me understanding that I may live.” Psalm 119:143-144

Trouble…it seems like a simple enough word to understand. However, when looking at definitions from secular sources, those provided were vague and had more to do with how trouble affects our comfort level or convenience rather than anything significant. In contrast, “Vine’s Bible Dictionary” states it clearly as: tribulation or affliction. Trouble comes in many forms. At times it is the result of a personal attack while at other times it is and “random”/general attack that we’re caught in. It may be an external threat or an internal one such as mental or physical illness. The point is that, as those living in a fallen world, we are going to experience trouble throughout our lives from the trivial to the monumental. We will enjoy a more peaceful existence if we learn to view it as God does and trust that He is ever faithful to care for us. One of the mental hurdles for us is that from our perspective, God’s care for us appears to be inconsistent.

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